I read a blog post the other day written by a mother in a similar situation to me – a new baby, a pre-schooler, a blog to write for, dinner to cook, a home to keep in some semblance of order…to name just a few things on her plate.
She was feeling overwhelmed. I need more time, she wrote. Her solution was to set some goals and get more organised.
It took me about a second to spot it – the blogger didn’t need more time or to be more organised, she just needed to do less stuff. Simplify. Slow down.
It took me a lot longer (um, weeks) to see what was even more obvious – the blogger could have been describing my life; I need to slow down. Simplify.
Do less stuff.
I tried to ignore that thought. I don’t want to slow down. I’ve always taken on more things than I have time for. What on earth would I do in the evenings if I wasn’t blogging?
But like a fly hanging round the sausage plate, the thought just wouldn’t go away.
It gnawed at the edges of my mind until late one night I whispered to DH as I was going to sleep, “do you think I should quit blogging?”
I’m not going to quit blogging. But I will be writing less for a little while.
Rather than spending nearly every naptime and evening writing, or researching, or editing, or reading blog related stuff (or feeling like I should be doing blog related stuff if I’m not), I’m going to catch up with other things.
Or just do nothing.
While I love writing and love building this blog, I need a little more balance. I’m spread too thin, to the point that nothing is getting the attention it deserves (except the kids of course). What that means for the blog is that I’ll be writing one article a week on Wednesdays (more if I feel inspired, less if I don’t) and two recipes a month rather than one every week.
Just for a few months. Until I have more time or less ‘other things’ to do. Like crafting Christmas presents. Or making curtains (what was I thinking?). Or selling some of our clutter. Or tending to the garden. Or reading.
I’ve already started skipping days on my writing schedule. I think it does everyone – you, me and my family – a disservice posting just for the sake of sticking to a schedule. I want to give my best. Motivation and commitment are good habits to foster, but I think I’m doing ok at those (maybe not so much when it comes to exercise, though). I want to write quality articles that are useful, interesting and polished – for that I need less rush. Less busyness.
Less is more, I often remind myself.
Even as I wrote this article, the little lady woke up cranky after only 30 minutes (possibly due to the man clomping around on our roof. Or possibly due to a growth spurt as she was hungry. Again. Or both. Don’t ask me why I have a man clomping around on the roof. I don’t know why).
So all the things I meant to write in this post – things about time and savouring each moment – will have to wait for another day. Because why write about savouring moments when I can just go ahead and do it?
See you next week.
Have you read these posts?
- site news–revised posting schedule and a question
- revised posting schedule
- uncommitted. declutter your schedule and get a life
- site news–the absence edition
- finding time to craft part three–organising your projects–a project bag tutorial