Comments on: sharing financial responsibility in marriage

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 02:49:17 +0000

Hi Pete, thanks, I enjoyed reading that!

By: Pete

Pete — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 15:33:08 +0000

Great post! Really good insight. It’s always difficult to discuss finances and share money in relationships. Thanks for your advice. I recently stumbled upon this blog like I stumbled upon yours. I think they offer some good points and laughter about the topic: http://burisonthecouch.wordpress.com/2010/09/22/dolla-dolla-bill-yall/

Thanks for the post! I’d like to see more like it.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 11:50:18 +0000

I was just saying to DH the other day that we needed a male point of view on this post! Thanks for providing it.

By: Benjamin Bankruptcy

Benjamin Bankruptcy — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 07:15:02 +0000

Astrid in contrast to all the women here I thought this was a husband problem:) I manage the finances, I saved the money we used to buy our house before we met and she just doesn’t understand what I took A) to save it and be B) what it takes to keep our house etc. Than calls me a cheap skate for not wanting to spend money.

At least you get your partners pay checks I’ve never seen my partners, I’ve not idea what she spends it on.

After paying all the bills we have $7 left over a week.

I’m have a hard time convincing her that we need to become a one car family, I want to sell my car and cycle. I’ve done it before but she’s refusing to consider it. ARGH!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 23:58:14 +0000

I’m glad that he realises he’s got a clever wife – and tells people.

By: Manjula

Manjula — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 09:05:11 +0000

God Melissa, I so know what you mean. I am from India and my husband is no different. He just hands over the money to me on his payday and expects me to keep giving him whenever he needs. He very proudly proclaims in front of his friends that he has a clever wife and doesnt have to worry about paying mortgage/bills. Everything i am trying to do to involve him in budgeting is just not working

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 23:43:46 +0000

Too true. I’ve heard of quite a few instances of this type of thing happening. A little compassion goes a long way.

By: Astrid

Astrid — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 23:36:22 +0000

Some providers are great with “authorised persons”, but I have found Telstra will allow me to do some things, but not others like set-up additional services.

My BIL was stuck after my sister died and Optus cut off his phone, they just could not understand that she was dead and could not talk to them. The last thing someone who has lost their wife needs.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 22:17:29 +0000

I could be wrong, but I think that when a company only has one account holder, you can elect to have someone else put on the account to make changes etc. Our phone and electricity are in DH’s name only but I am an ‘authorised’ person – after all, I’m the one that does the ringing.

By: Linda

Linda — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 20:57:17 +0000

Ditto on many fronts. The challenges also include being the one responsible for superannuation, health and property insurance, and anything to do with the car (since my husband doesn’t drive). The common response is “well I don’t understand any of that, and you do”. Only because I force myself to research it, and I don’t enjoy the process!

On the matter of identification, these days most companies will only allow accounts such as phones, gas to be set up under one name. This can be problematic if the other person is then required to produce a bill with their name and address for identification purposes.